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Affection: Melancholy Phlegmatic

Affection is the need to establish and maintain a satisfactory relationship with others in regard to love and affection (deep one-on-one relationships, such as spouses, girlfriends or boyfriends, parents, children, trusted friends). Affection asks two questions:

  1. How much love and affection do I express to others?
  2. 2. How much love and affection do I want expressed to me?

General description of people who are Melancholy Phlegmatic in Affection:

  1. Expresses and wants only a moderate amount of love and affection
  2. He/she is emotionally guarded, rarely showing or saying how he/she feels -- needs to learn how to show deep, tender feelings in ways others can understand
  3. The people with whom he/she chooses to have a deep relationship must make him/her feel "safe" and meet criteria which are in his/her mind
  4. Hides personal feelings behind a "dry" (sometimes witty and often sarcastic) sense of humor

Potential strengths which should be encouraged, used and developed:

  1. Faithful and loyal friend if treated properly

Potential weaknesses which should be considered and dealt with:

  1. If rejected, insulted or offended by a deep personal relationship, he/she uses his/her "dry" and "biting" sense of humor to take vengeance.
  2. Tends to be an observer of deep relationships and uses "dry" humor to avoid becoming too involved -- this is a defense mechanism to protect his/her low energy level
  3. Resists affection from others because he/she has very little energy and it takes "too much" energy to respond.

To go to the Aspect of Inclusion

To go to the Aspect of Control

To go to the Aspect of Affection

For more information about the temperament, visit Temperaments.Info